In general, reveal a little about yourself and allow the conversation partner to reveal only as much as he is comfortable with, Tell each other more or less the same amount of personal information. If you would like to strike up a conversation with someone but are at a loss for something to say then try this tip for inspiration. Remember the word FORE.
Most people have;
F - a Family: Do they have brothers and sisters? Where did their family come from? Where did they grow up? O - an Occupation: Are they working? Do they enjoy their job? Have they moved to get a better job? Or Are they studying instead? R - some Recreation: Most people like to do something in their spare time. Do they play sport? Go to the cinema? Enjoy listening to music? Do sports? Go clubbing etc? E - an Education: We've all been to school, and some have studied further at college or University. Have you studied the same subjects, or maybe in the same town? When did they quit education? Are they learning something at the moment?
It's OK to talk about non-sensitive subjects like what kind of work you do, what type of food you like, or where you like to go for an evening out. Once you are comfortable with each other, you can proceed into other areas that are a little more personal. However, take it slowly and don't probe too deeply at first.
If there is a topic that a person does not want to talk about they will let you know, either directly or in a more subtle way. Look for signs of discomfort and change the topic.
 If you finid you are getting on to convesation topics or subjects you don't agree about, you have to make the deision either to:
Terminate the conversation ("Excuse me, I must go to the toilet / get another drink / start making tracks"); or
Change the subject  ("What do you think of this restaurant?"), or
State quite calmly that you don't approve of what's being said ("I don't like this kind of sexual talk") without being rude.
If your conversation partner indicates that they're interested in something you know nothing about, here's your opportunity to learn. If it's a topic that bores you rigid, then perhaps it would be better to make your excuses and try elsewhere. However, if you genuinely want to know more, ask questions about what it is that interests you about the subject. Be careful not to turn the conversation into an inquisition (Q&A) by asking one question after another in rapid succession. This can be irritating, may appear threatening and isn't conversation at all. By gentle probing you can find out what your prospective friend likes. If you both like the same things, you're probably onto a winner.
If you are going to strike up a conversation with somebody and you don't know how they'll respond, then mentally prepare yourself for all eventualities before you step in. If he is friendly, have some idea how you are going to carry on the conversation. If he appears uninterested, be prepared for that, too. Preparing yourself beforehand for the possibility of rejection can make it much easier to bear if it comes. If the rejections is insensitive and insulting then don't take it to heart - such an ill-mannered response to your overtures of friendship reflect worse on the person who uttered it than on you.
Eventually, almost imperceptibly, you will begin to make progress. If you stick at it, you will gradually accumulate a circle of friends who will support you when the going gets tough.
If you feel you need support or further help with communication skills, body language and overcoming shyness, there are a number of Volunteers who can help you through this. Also keep your eyes peeled for assertiveness workshops. Some are run by gay organizations specifically for gay men , transgender and lesbian women in Uganda.
Important notes for your safety:
If you are meeting people, whether from Icebreakers or not, please remember a few golden rules for your own safety:
Don’t give your name, and certainly not your address, until you are sure you want to continue the friendship.
Arrange initial meetings in a public place, e.g. a restaurant or bar, etcetera - not in either your or their home.
Always leave details of your plans and whereabouts with family or friends when seeing someone for the first few
